"Oh, the places you’ll go! There is fun to be done! There are points to be scored. There are games to be won. And the magical things you can do with that ball will make you the winning-est winner of all..." ~ Dr. Seuss
Have you ever heard the saying, "Experience is the hardest teacher, it gives the test before the lesson?" Here's another doozy for you that I found when researching for this article, "Out of life's school of war: What does not destroy me, makes me stronger" Friedrich Nietzsche, The Twilight of the Idols (1899). While I understand and appreciate the sentiments illustrated in these theories about life, I am here to offer a very
different outlook. I don't know about you, but I don't want experience to be the "hardest teacher," and I definitely do not want to go to a "school of war." Frankly, when I
was in school, I always just preferred the playground. Didn't you?
Experience is a great teacher, and it is not untrue that we can often feel very tested by our lives. I went full-time with my business in May, and I must say, that this experience has been one of the most challenging experiences in my life, thus far. All of the sudden, I went from working 28 hours a week at a day-job and squeezing clients and marketing in wherever I could to just coaching everyday, and boy, have I learned A LOT about myself. The main thing that I realized is that somewhere along the way, I forgot about the fun. I started to feel constantly tested, but worse, I was beginning to judge myself as a failure. Oh yeah folks, Life Coaches do that, too. :)
I was finding myself in a constant state of judgment--thinking that I wasn't working hard enough, I wasn't responding to emails fast enough, I wasn't doing enough marketing, and then I started judging myself for judging myself! Sound familiar? All of these beliefs were spinning around in my head (I had a lot of sleepless nights) and ultimately feeding the belief that
I am not enough. I was feeling punished left and right, at times wondering, "When is life going to get easier?! When am I just going to learn whatever the heck it is that I'm supposed to learn?!" What I didn't realize is that
I was the one punishing
myself. I was being the most critical, unforgiving, nasty teacher you could ever imagine. Who learns from that kind of teacher? I know I don't.
Ta-Da! I had an epiphany. This whole "life is a school" thing is all fine and dandy--we certainly are constantly learning; but the one BIG difference between school and life is that unlike tests in school, in life, there truly are no right or wrong answers, right or wrong choices. Though it may feel like we can get WAY off track at times and even that life is punishing us, we are always on track. Our souls just LOVE the scenic route through life, and so we choose this way and that way; but all roads lead to the same place. All roads lead to ourselves.
You maybe someone whose house is in foreclosure. Your relationship may be in turmoil, your job. You may be struggling with an addiction. You may even have gone to jail. Society will do whatever it can to put life in black and white terms of RIGHT vs. WRONG, but on a soul level, you chose this path. You chose the discovery route through life. Maybe you haven't been listening very well to the calling of your soul, but the Universe/God/Spirit/Source is ALWAYS listening. You are always provided with exactly what you need at the perfect, right time--it doesn't always feel good in the moment, but it is never TRULY punishment. You're heart will open to receive that love, to see the growth opportunities, at the perfect, right time. No right. No wrong. You are always exactly who and where you need to be.
I invite you to imagine being on a playground at recess time in school. Just like in the classroom, there is a lot to learn on the playground--how to play kickball, hopscotch, all of the fun ways to swing on swings, how to play fairly with the other children. You aren't thinking about being right or wrong, you are just thinking how fun it is to learn how to play this game, how fun it is to play with your friends. You feel free and happy. You feel like you can be yourself.
I am happy to say that the playground is much more the arena of life than the classroom. Life is about stretching and growing, seeking the adventure around every corner and getting messy in the process. I got plenty of bruises and scrapes and experienced my share of bullies out on the playground, but when I look back at recess, I just remember the fun; because that was the goal. Fun can also be the goal of your life.
In what ways are you putting limits on yourself, judging your choices as right and wrong? In what ways are you judging the consequences of your choices as punishment for making "wrong choices"? How would it feel to release the belief that you can make a right or a wrong choice and simply choose the path that feels the most joyful? How are you being loved and cared for even in this moment?
I can say that I've been through a tough couple of months, but at the perfect, right time, I was able to open my eyes and see the way in which I have been loved this whole time. I'm already feeling gratitude for the experience, and I am being MUCH kinder with myself. Now that I kicked the nasty, judgmental teacher out of my mind, I'm swingin' on swings and having a grand old time! Yes, we are always learning, but how about we ditch the "school of war?" Folks, I'm ringing the bell. It's time for recess...all the time...starting.....NOW!
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With Love and Deep Gratitude,
:)Melissa Simonson
Spiritual Life Coachwww.igniteyourvoice.com©2008 Melissa Simonson
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